Now. Hey. You. Please don’t say that. I was once in your position. I understand how it feels for everything to come crashing down on you. I know the feelings of hopelessness and apathy like the back of my hand. I’ve been there. I promise you it is going to get better as long as you try to make it better. I know this because I am in such an amazing place right now as compared to where I was before. You can be too. As long as you work hard for what you want, appreciate the little things in life, and never give up, everything will get so much better. Be thankful for the things you have, even if you don’t have much. We all have low points in our lives. We all lose our identities sometimes. I went through every single day feeling like I was in a prison for a year and a half straight. I didn’t know who I was, and I really didn’t care. When I hit rock bottom, I realized that from that point, the only direction I could look was up. So I did. I saw the light and vowed to get myself out of that rut. I worked hard at everything I did, got my shit together, and created a wonderful life for myself. Now, my existence means something. You may feel like a worthless piece of dirt that has no purpose in this world, but you have no idea how wrong you are. You have the potential to live an incredible, happy life. Just make the most of what you have and do the things you enjoy. I live by the quote, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” Do what you need to do to make yourself happy. That could mean changing something about yourself, taking up a new hobby, making new friends, or seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist to assist you on your journey. Change is scary. Taking action is scary. However, I can guarantee you that you won’t be any happier unless you actively do something to fix the problems you have in life. Please never give up. You have so much potential in life, and it would really be a shame to waste it.
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I know you don’t want to tell anyone, but if you are truly fearful for your safety when you go to school, you need to get someone involved. Every school has a dean, guidance counselor, or someone you can talk to whenever you have a problem like this. If you don’t feel comfortable going directly to the school administration about it, you can try to talk to a parent or guardian instead and see if they will contact the school officials for you. This problem sounds like something you won’t be able to solve on your own; you’ll need to get an authority figure involved to keep you safe. If the situation is very severe, the police might get involved. It all depends on how threatening the kids at school are and what their intentions appear to be.
As far as your friends/romantic interests though, PLEASE try to not let this situation get in the way of your relationships with other people. You are going through a tough time right now and you need support more than ever. Keep your family and friends close; don’t push them away. You are not a monster just because your abusive former friend says so. You are what you make yourself to be.
Please don’t believe the cruel things the kids are saying about you. They aren’t true. You have to be strong and do the things in life that are beneficial to you and will help you to succeed. That’s all that matters. Middle/high school doesn’t last forever; one day, you will be off on your own, doing what you want to do with your life, and not caring about what any of the mean people have to say. In order to get there, however, you have to work hard and remain focused on what you truly want in life. I know you’re enduring a lot of bullying and threats right now, but you need to keep your eye on the prize. Don’t let your life be a mess because of the cruel words and actions of others. Do exactly what you need to do to get to where you want to be, and try to not worry about anyone else because they don’t matter.
On that note, if you have tried talking to an administrator and nothing seems to be helping, (yes there are many incompetent school officials in existence) you may benefit from switching schools. Try talking to your parents about the situation and see if they will let you move schools or do online schooling. I know change can be scary, but if people are constantly beating you down and you can’t escape it, leaving your current school may be the best option. It could possibly allow you to focus more on yourself and be more successful in the longrun. So if it comes down to it, I would advise you to consider switching schools.
The final and most important piece of advice I have to give is PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON’T EVER GIVE UP. You seem like an intelligent person and you have so much potential for a great future. Life truly is what you make it, so make it wonderful. Everyone has problems in life, some more than others, but what really matters is how you handle those problems. There is always a way to make a situation better and improve your quality of life. I know you feel trapped, but believe me, the bullying will not last forever. Even if your school administration sucks and won’t do anything or your parents won’t let you switch schools, you will be able to escape it one day. In that case, you just need to tough it out and remind yourself every day that you are wonderful and amazing and that you are going to have an incredible life one day. No matter what, please stay strong. It will all be worth it in the end.
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